Facebook Vagueness

Facebook is an odd thing. I get annoyed with people who are purposefully vague about their posts so that  people respond to them and they can explain more.

 For example: A "friend" on my FB feed had a status change and was in a "relationship" with "so and so."

Um, excuse me, but aren't you married to my college friend? Shouldn't you announce that you are separated or single and maybe there should be a post about, "I left my husband." Or maybe "My marriage is over." To go from "Married" to "in a relationship" with someone not your husband of 18 years is odd.

I saw her status change but since I'm not friends with my college friend on FB, I couldn't verify what I was reading. (I'm friends with him by phone and email rather than reading crap in my news feed.) I haven't called to ask what happened. I figured if he wanted to call, he would. Also I don't really know  how to broach the subject. "So I see on FB you wife left you." That seems cold and mean.

So for the past 4-5 days her posts have been about forgiveness and maybe she could have been a better wife. I, and everyone else, has not engaged these posts to ask for clarification. I only met her a month ago when I was in Tucson for my friend's illness. The semi public wallowing on FB of "I suck" is odd to me. I wallow here, or in private writings, or in a bar over a drink. Call a friend if you need to talk, but sharing that on FB would never cross my mind.

Because when you click "like" or make a comment it shows up in all your friend's feeds on the side. Or at least it does on my FB page. I see all their activity on the side. It's like being a stalker into the minutiae of their online life.

Then there are other "friends" on FB. They do very vague and pseudo spiritual posts. "The Phoenix spreads her wings." Beautiful. Poetic. What does that mean? Something in your life changing for the better? Great. You could post "I'm having a great day today," or "Great things are happening to me." But the yogic double talk is confusing.

Then someone this past week, the same one who left her husband, announced, I'm not kidding, "I like cheese." Well, let me inform the media. If you are a foodie, and I have a good friend who posts about and works int he food industry, then posting about food makes sense. If you  are suffering a pique of boredom and can't think of anything to write on FB, then don't write on FB.

For if someone were descending into madness and the only baseline for sanity was what was previously posted on social media, you wouldn't be able to tell when they lost it.